So, once again, not about feminism, but rather sex and sex work. The debate continues on at ND’s, and in it, Faith has become pretty insistent that sex workers do not have a wider range of experiences (as in odd, strange, more straight forward, kinky, whatever) than non-sexworker women…
And I have to say sorry, but I really freakin’ disagree there. Hell, I run with a twisted and pervy bunch of women, but still…I just think she is flat out wrong on that one.
See, there are a lot of men who specifically seek out sex workers for various fantasies and fetishes because they are either embarrassed to ask their partners about them, know their partners will not go for them, do not wish to be judged for having them, and figure that hey, that being the case, hire a professional. Also, I think something that is forgotten here is yeah, perhaps younger men, 20-30 somethings and all, might not have too hard of a time finding a partner willing to try out their kinks (many of them anyway), but older guys? Not so much really. Society has become less conservative and many people have embraced that…other generations? Not so much. An older guy might not feel as though he can find someone to get his kink on with even more so than a younger guy might…so once again, a professional is called in.
And I am just sorta sitting here smirking about it. Because you know, it isn’t a competition. If people are happy in their own sex lives, what the hell does in matter how good/bad/diverse/strange/more experienced/less experienced they are than sex workers? Its almost like the silly meme of Non Sex Workers saying “omg, we have better sex and are a better at sex than sex workers” and sex workers saying “honey, you ain’t got a fucking clue”… I mean for real, who cares? If a woman is happy in her fucking, what does it matter?
But see, it is the oddity that gets me. It’s just odd to me to think that non-sexworkers figure they see as much of the weird and strange of human kinks and fetishes that sex workers see because people specifically go to sex workers to experience these things. How many dudes go to pro-dommes with all their strange and personalized fantasies because their partners are not into it? How many guys go to prostitutes because they want to do things their girlfriend/wife is not down with? How many people hire professionals because they can’t seem to find amateurs to kink out with? Answer: Lots.
I mean, in my day, I have seen some weird shit. Guys who will pay to be beaten up (and I mean seriously beaten up), trampled, pissed on, puked on, have their body hair ripped out, demeaned, degraded, humiliated, forced to lick out toilet bowls, anally fisted, roleplay out rape fantasies with another dude, jacked with a cattle prod, pierced, choked, wrapped up almost completely in Saran Wrap and kicked in the nuts. Guys who want a sex worker to sit in cold water and ice then play dead. Guys who want to rough up the professional, piss on, slap, hair pull and play out rape fantasies with her. Guys who want to play the dead body part. Dudes who want to wear diapers. Dudes who want to pretend to be schoolboys. Dudes who want to pretend to be women, or prisoners, or animals. Dudes who want to lick your feet or anus for an hour…or just listen to you talk about all the other weird requests you get.
And yeah, I am sure there are non sex worker people out there in real life who engage in or have experienced some or more of these fetishes….but all of them? Sometimes fairly regularly?
For some reason, I think not. And people are gonna have a hard time convincing me otherwise.